Recovery coaching pans out differently for everyone, and I offer a coaching format designed to respect the non-linear nature of recovery while also keeping the bigger picture in view and honouring the ways in which working towards concrete short-term goals helps further your (perhaps grander and less tangible) medium- and long-term aspirations.
Coaching with me is organised in four-week blocks, with a range of intensities and ingredients that we can tailor to your needs. All the variants are geared towards helping you make and sustain practical changes that will collectively dismantle your eating disorder. To achieve this, they include regular conversations by Skype or FaceTime in which we reflect on how things have been going and agree on a plan for practical things to change or consolidate in the next phase. In preparation for each conversation, you’ll complete a set of reflection and feedback questions to help us both understand what went well, what less so, and what should come next.
I also suggest exploratory tasks for you to tackle alongside the central everyday changes you’ll be making each week, to help you understand and challenge some ingrained aspect of your illness more comprehensively – whether distorted thought patterns or unhelpful behaviours or ways of interacting with other people. I’m always expanding my library of tasks, and what I suggest or create especially for you to work on will depend on which aspects are holding you back and which seem ripe for confronting at any given point in the recovery process.
Here are some examples of how past clients’ coaching pathways have turned out. I tend to advise weekly check-ins for the first four weeks; some people then feel ready to reduce the intensity immediately, while others need several months of weekly check-ins before this feels right; some take a break between four-week chunks, others don’t. The additional exploratory tasks tackled by these clients are shown in the white boxes.